This prologue explains and defines terms used to describe men who allow their wives to fuck other men.
PROLOGUE TO MAKING A HOTWIFE
MAKING A HOTWIFE
The paraphilic act of candaulism can be defined as a husband or boyfriend that entertains and enjoys the act of sexually exposing his partner, or images of his partner to other people for his voyeuristic pleasure. Thus he is someone who wants to show off his partner to other people.
A Hotwife is a married woman who has sexual relations outside of her marriage, with the full knowledge and consent of her husband, who himself doesn’t have affairs. Hotwifing is the wife-sharing arrangement or act of carrying out such affairs and is not exclusive to the husband watching. Meaning, the wife is permitted to engage in sexual relations with other men on her own without being accompanied by her husband.
These terms are constantly being redefined and the latest definition of this is called a “Stag,” versus a “Cuck.” A stag usually assists in choosing who their partner will have sex with and is much more in control of the situation.
A Stag is a dominant husband who encourages his wife to have sex with another in which the man shares his wife with other men in his presence for erotic encounters, yet he is a straight hetero alpha and not seeking any bi play nor humiliation and the wife in no way demeans or degrades him. He is a dominant man who encourages his wife to have sex with others in his presence.
A vixen is a submissive woman who is having extramarital sex with the encouragement and full knowledge and support by her dominant husband.
The word cuckold or cuck is as old as the institution of marriage itself. Historically a cuckold was a man who was married to an adulterous wife. It is defined as a man with an unfaithful wife. Traditionally, a cuckold was an object of scorn among the community and was looked upon as someone who could not satisfy his wife’s sexual appetite. It has only been during this last century that the term cuckold has come to take on a different meaning.
One definition of the word cuckold is where the husband is submissive and often subjected to taunting and humiliation from his dominant female partner while, or after, she has sex with another man. He finds pleasure in watching his wife have sexual relations with another man while he is verbally degraded and humiliated by his wife.
But that definition refers to a man being a cuckold and not necessarily being made a cuckold. The fact is a man does not hold within himself the ability to be a cuckold, as he is made a cuckold by either his wife or by the other man that is fucking his wife. Thus, as with the historical definition, a wife can make her husband a cuckold not only by being unfaithful to him but by her insisting that she have sexual relations with another man. All the while she humiliates him the entire time as she actively participates. It is more about her “cheating” and traditionally involves more submission and humiliation for the husband whose wife is having sex with other people. For example, a wife that makes her husband a cuck derives pleasure by gloating to him about how the guy she is fucking is more capable with pleasing her in ways that he cannot, specifically due to the smaller size of his penis.
Contrary to these definitions I personally have reserved the following explanation for the term cuckold. It is the opinion of many, myself included, feel that the explanation of cuckolding is not cuckolding unless one is aroused by the emotional or psychological satisfaction of being HUMILIATED by your wife having sex with someone other than you and indicating that your abilities are sexually inferior to the “bull” that she is fucking.
So, what is the correct term for a dominant man who enjoys and receives sexual pleasure by watching his wife partake in sexual relations with another, and a wife that is willing to fuck another man for her husband’s pleasure? Simply put, the husband is referred to as a Stag and the wife is referred to as a Vixen. However both of them combined are called ‘Compersionist.’
Compersion means to find true sexual satisfaction and genuine happiness from another person’s sexual excitement or joy. It’s also defined as a positive feeling felt by a husband that originates from watching his wife become intimate with someone other than himself. In the context of consensual non-monogamous relationships, compersion can refer to the happiness one finds in their partner’s pursuit of sexual and romantic intimacy with others. It’s often used among consensually non-monogamous people as a reason why husbands enjoy sharing their wives, or it’s something they learn to appreciate along the way to help them battle potential jealousy.
To put it simply, some husbands call it cuckolding because they take pleasure in their wives being pleasured and humiliating them accordingly. And some refer to it as hotwifing because they are married to a woman who has sexual relations outside of the marriage, with the full knowledge and consent of her husband. And the Hotwife couple can set different standards and rules with regard to making a hotwife. Such as she is not permitted to have relations with another without her husband present and he must be involved in some fashion or another.
I am a Stag. I have always enjoyed being sexually aroused from watching my wife be pleasured by having sex, or engaging in sexual activity with another man, while remaining in full control by participating in choosing the other man. This should by no means be considered cuckolding. Nevertheless, everything except cuckolding is considered a very loving state of mind for both the husband and the wife for the fact that it takes an incredible amount of love and compassion to genuinely be excited for your wife as she has sex with another man with her husband watching. And it takes just as much love and compassion for a wife to agree to and allow other men to fuck her for the sole purpose of pleasuring her husband.
I was a Stag married to a Hotwife Vixen for a little over eight years and I very much enjoyed when she eventually allowed other men to fuck her for my pleasure. Since my wife and I met outside of the lifestyle, I felt that I had a lot of convincing to do if I were to persuade her to not only desire to fuck another man but that we would both enjoy it separately and together in our own way. I thoroughly researched what I thought at the time to be a strange and unusual desire of wanting to watch my wife be intimate with another man before I even considered bringing it up to her and as it turns out that this desire is very common and not that unusual. I imagined she would never agree to doing such a thing because sex to her was enjoyable but not that important and I believed that her traditional core values absolutely prevented her from participating in such a thing. However, she did share with me that when she was younger, she once participated in a MFF, so maybe I’d be able to convince her nonetheless.
